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I am really troubled and
need your help. I have a guy in my life who I think is just the perfect
one for me and we have even got physical which is with both of our wills
and I enjoy it with him like never before and feel secure 'bout him as
he makes me feel very special and most of respects me the way I am. The
problem is my best friend(a girl) who I also love a lot thinks that I
am doing wrong not that she hates my guy, she told me that she likes him
but she has a problem with the whole lovemaking thing. I know since she
care she is a little protective as she has seen me through wrong hands
but then I am not able to convince her of my feelings and likings for
this guy and his love for me. Please ashow a way out of this. In Pain!
Me!
Dear,
Well from what you have told me , one thing that is very clear is that
both your boyfriend and and your friend are equally important for you
and you don't intend to hurt any of them!Good, you are actually playing
the perfect "girlfriend"! But as for your problem, if we look
at it hypothetically your friend is only trying to be protective, considerate
and most of all genuinenly convincing because our society still does not
recognise this kinda behaviour respectable! But then again i must say,
in life there are a lot of things which should not lie under constraints
provided we are very sure of our actions.Your guy as you say respects
you and has always gone the consensual way, this is great.But however
i must warn you that apperances are often deceptive and sometimes mistakes
may ruin your life completely, you are a mature girl and i am sure you
know best what's right for you.As for how you can make your friend understand,
just let her know that you do respect her feelings and since you have
always made your own decisions, if at all then you are even willing to
learn everything the hard way and i am sure she will be in a compromise!
But however incase anything goes wrong, never ever ignore what your friend
has to say and take all the blame on yourself!
LoveNanny!
She used to love me, now she says she hates
me ,she doesn't want to talk to me,doesn't want to meet me What do I do-
Sharad
Sharad I can make out very little from whatever
you have told me, like you should have told me as to why did she start
behaving like this all of a sudden.Was it that you people fought over
something? Or was it like there was already tension in your relationship
because otherwise it is very unlikely for anybody to behave in such a
manner.Anyway what i think you should do now ,is ask her to talk to you
once and for all and solve out your problems, because i am sure there
is something troubling her.Find out what is it and try sorting things
out.But if she is not willing and is not interested in carrying on the
relationship, i would advice you not to force her into anything..Because
she could have a genuine problem and if you really love her, you will
understand.As for now why not make an effort to profess your undying love
for your ladylove..One thing you could try is post a message for your
girlfriend in our "Love Signal" section..and ask her to check
it out....i am sure you will sweep her off her feet!
LoveNanny!